Well, it’s been a few weeks now, and though I knew a couple notions on how to take care of a baby, I found out there’s another series of tricks that come along handy or show up naturally. So here’s the stuff that doesn’t appear in books:
Fast bites
It used to take me twice the time it took Frank to eat anything, masticating my food properly, tasting stuff and all. No more. Tip for mothers-to-be: learn how to chew fast, and swallow big bites, if you want to eat whole meals when daddy’s away.
Disappearing
Like many mommys, I’ve started referring to myself to the third person. “Mommy’s gonna be right back, sweetie, she’ll just go wash her hands.” “Mommy’s glad you’re falling asleep, baby.” It’s an odd habit, but it just caught on. Whether it’s a reason for repeating the word Mommy over and over again, hoping baby will learn it fast, or an unconscious way to acknowledge the fact that there’s no “I” that counts anymore – your needs are second to baby’s – I don’t know.
Multitask
Like eat/make faces for baby so he doesn’t get bored. Shower/sing to reassure baby waiting on his little chair. Or even sleep/hold baby on my tummy to make him sleep too.
Logistics
Going down to the basement to fetch something isn’t an efficient use of any alloted time. Best to bring some stuff that needs to go downstairs, then come back with what I need. Same thing for a walk with the stroller, that can be combined with a trip to the mailbox, the convenience store or the bank.
Learn lullabys
François V. did tell me before to learn some songs, which I didn’t, and I find myself stammering through half-remembered tunes from when I was young (it’s ok for now, he’s young enough not to understand the words anyway).
Animal sounds
Making animal sounds makes you look weird, but it sure scores some smiles with baby. And his happiness is what’s important after all.
Be rude
My mom’s keen on dropping by to rock baby or play with him for a couple of minutes. I’m getting keen on using that time to unload the dishwasher, picking up stuff around the house or taking a shower.
I’m sure I can find other examples, but that’s it for now.
PS. I got jealous of Frank’s new homepage, so I had to redesign my own. It was ok before, but was getting old. It’s nice enough now.